英语"666" 生活职场胜一筹
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时间:2024-01-15 10:27:48 作者:Elena
9日晚,董宇辉新号“与辉同行”抖音账号首播,单场产品销售额超1.5亿元。截至目前账号粉丝数量已超过780万人。
公开资料显示,该抖音账号由东方甄选100%控股,认证信息为“与辉同行(北京)科技有限公司”。
去年12月20日,经历“小作文”事件和相应的职位调整后,董宇辉在北京接受了中国日报专访。
从2022年夏天在东方甄选直播间走红,到2023年年底成为东方甄选高级合伙人、新东方文旅集团副总裁,这中间不过一年多时间。短短一年多的经历,在董宇辉本人看来“太过离奇”。
他知道网络上有很多人在讨论他走红的原因,但“我到现在都没想明白,就觉得是运气好”。
不少追董宇辉直播的粉丝们自称是他的“丈母娘”,这当然是一种玩笑话。面对“丈母娘们”的厚爱,董宇辉显得十分冷静,他说:
“大家能这样自称的时候,其实是想要隔着屏幕、隔着距离,跟另外一个毫不相关的人产生一些亲密连接,相当于一种closer connection with a faceless friend。素未谋面的朋友。”
"When everyone refers to themselves in this way, it's actually an attempt to create an intimate connection with someone on the other side of the screen, across distance. It's like a closer connection with a faceless friend, right? Essentially, it's about forming a close bond with someone completely unrelated, akin to making friends with strangers."
很多人欣赏他、支持他,把他当成自己的家人。董宇辉说“我对他们的期待也是一模一样的,就是多考虑自己,少考虑我”。
"I want my fans to pay more attention to themselves and prioritize themselves, not me," he said.
聊到自己工作中的乐趣,董宇辉引用了他最喜欢的诗人杜甫的一句诗,“为人性僻耽佳句,语不惊人死不休”。在日常工作中,他依然像当初那个“教书先生”一样,喜欢研究“小金句”,总是思考如何更好地表达才能让人眼前一亮。只不过,如今的听众从学生换成了消费者。
在董宇辉看来,阅读能给人提供情感和表达,情感里包括价值观和共情能力,表达里就包含了词汇量。“李杜文章在,光焰万丈长”,他说人类所能经历的情感在“那里头”都有,只要涉猎得足够多,一个人就会有更强的共情能力。
相较于聊阅读时的意气风发,董宇辉在聊到卖货这件事时,稍显严肃。他坦言,“其实我到现在都不喜欢卖货,实事求是来说,诱导大家买原本不需要、用不完吃不完的东西,那个是作恶。至少在我的价值观里,到现在都是作恶。消费让人快乐,但消费主义让人痛苦。”
"Actually, until this day I still don't like selling goods. To be honest, inducing everyone to buy things they don't originally need, things they can't use up or eat up, that feels wrong. Consumption brings happiness, but consumerism brings suffering."
新东方从做互联网教育到转型做农产品带货直播的过程中,董宇辉是亲历者、见证者和贡献者之一。选择留在东方甄选,按董宇辉自己的话来说,“像住了很多年的老房子”。
在做高中英语老师时,董宇辉曾作为管理人员招了一批优秀的年轻人,教他们备课、和学生沟通、开家长会......教培改革时,年轻人纷纷离开,董宇辉说自己一直希望“这里好了之后有一天他们能回来”。
后来,他实现了这个愿望。
专访时,董宇辉看着眼前的办公室说,“这里任何一个人都是以前我在西安新东方工作时,要么当时的同事,要么在那曾经招过的老师,这里好起来的第一时间,我就给他们发了消息,想回来都可以回来”。
“小作文”事件后选择留下也是一样的道理,“我也不想让这里刚刚事业发展有所成就的一些年轻人再经历困难,他们没有错”。
"I also don't want to see some young people who have just achieved success in their careers here go through difficulties again; they are not at fault."
他说小时候背诗,有两句让他特别难受,一句是“四海无闲田,农夫犹饿死”,另一句是“遍身罗绮者,不是养蚕人”。从走红网络到陷入风波,前前后后有不少企业开出高薪挖他。综合自身的性格和追求后,他做出了自己的决定,“你总得允许一些人的选择是不一样的”。
董宇辉对于工作的很多理解,依然源自于他做老师的那段经历。他觉得好的管理其实是服务,就像当年管理学生,“不是训斥、要求学生,是了解、沟通、尊重,最后激发”。
Dong Yuhui's many insights into work still originate from his experience as a teacher. He believes that effective management is essentially a form of service, much like managing students back in his day. It's not about reprimanding and demanding from students but understanding, communicating, respecting, and ultimately inspiring.
谈起2023年的难忘时刻,他想起夏天回老家的一次经历。
那时他心事重重,在离开家刚到村口的时候,奶奶追了上来。因为奶奶年事已高,他形容说是“背佝偻着,走不快”,一路“赶到村口”对他说,“孩子你压力别太大啊”。董宇辉说这话时,稍稍停顿了一会儿,像是在对抗什么情绪。
He reminisced about a poignant moment during a summer visit to his hometown. At that time, burdened with heavy thoughts, he left home, but his grandmother caught up with him. Due to her advanced age, she walked with a hunched back, not moving fast. Hurrying to the village entrance, she said, "Child, don't put too much pressure on yourself."
对于大多数沉默寡言的上一辈人来说,这是很难得的举动。董宇辉说,就是这样一句简单的话,击溃了他的心理防线。
在2022年转型前他也回过一次老家。当时他试探地问奶奶“如果我去卖菜了怎么办”,奶奶问“在哪里卖”,他回答说“在中关村卖”,奶奶又问“那里的菜市场生意好不好”,他说“不是菜市场,反正就是卖菜”,奶奶说“卖菜也没啥,只要自己健康快乐就行”。
董宇辉说自己2023年的变化之一是更沉默了。休息的时候在家喝茶发呆看书,连续两三天一个人也不会见,一句话也不会说,因为“一个人一辈子能说的话是有限的。”
他认为从当老师到当主播,自己一直在“过度表达”,这之后就会形成一种巨大的精神内耗。“所以但凡停下来的时间,只要我有做决定的自由,我就一句话也不说,长时间地沉默和发呆。我需要补心力。”
He believes that from being a teacher to becoming a livestream host, he has been constantly oversharing, and this will eventually lead to a significant mental drain. "So, whenever there's a moment of pause, as long as I have the freedom to make a decision, I don't say a word, staying silent and lost in thought for a long time. I need to replenish my mental energy."
他说自己的另一个变化是心态上更成熟了。以前他非常容易被别人的情绪所影响,面临批评的时候也会非常难受。曾经面对学生或家长的一些真实反馈时,甚至“会把自己憋出内伤”。
现在,他说,“不管是举世非之还是举世誉之,我都能够相对超脱事情之外。”
He mentioned that another change in himself is a more mature mindset. In the past, he was easily influenced by others' emotions. Now, whether it's praise or criticism, he can relatively detach himself from the situation.
但是,董宇辉仍然会时不时思考自己工作的价值。对于卖货这件事,他说想了很久,觉得可能唯一的价值就是“让很多人原本的生活能够更幸福快乐一些,如果能有这点我就很满足。我希望大家幸福快乐”。
Regarding the matter of selling goods, he said he has thought about it for a long time and feels that the only possible value is "making many people's lives a bit happier and more joyful. If I can achieve that, I would be very satisfied. I hope everyone is happy and joyful."
专访最后,记者问“如果有一天不火了怎么办”,他说“我不知道。不火了就不火了,反正当时火也火得莫名其妙。我觉得我得到的,远远已经超过我应该得到的。”
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